Monday, November 21, 2011

When I grow up I want to be....

This question always stumped me as a kid.  In fact it still stumps me now many years later.  I've never held any ambition for a particular job or occupation, and I've never really had an overwhelming desire to achieve something very specific.  Sometimes I wish I had been like that as it certainly would have made choosing my university degree program a lot easier!

On the other hand I've never been really disappointed about the career paths I've chosen.  They have been many and varied - professional golf caddy vs wedding planner vs program manager... the list is diverse.  All of the experiences I've had have taken me to different places and exposed me to life in a way I could have never imagined as a child.  I'm kind of glad I never really had a definitive answer to this question when I was younger, and even more so that I don't now.

That's not to say I don't have goals.  I do.  I want to do well in my job.  I want to succeed and grow and progress in everything I do.  This is actually a desire that filters through every area of my life - my relationships, my hobbies, everything I do for fun.  Usually every year around January I take stock of the previous year and look at what I've achieved and take a moment to consider what I want to work towards in the coming year.  The thing about doing that in January is that it usually leads to failure for me.  Or at least just a momentary enthusiasm which soon passes with the increasingly hectic pace of the following months.  So I've come to a conclusion that this needs to change.  I'm not going to wait until the new year to jump on the band wagon with everyone else.  I'm going to take stock now and write some goals for 2012 before 2011 has closed out.

I'm going to call it my ambition list.  It's going to be long.  It's going to be big and broad.  And it's going to be fun.  This isn't my work goals - they are between myself and my boss - but these are things I want to start doing in 2012.

  • Learn to crochet & make something.  I've never done it - yay for new skills!
  • Make a card a week & post it to someone
  • Take more photos.  Specifically make sure I shoot some photos once a month (at least)
  • Take more days off.  And don't check my email while doing so
  • Walk more
  • Laugh more  
  • Get at least 1 more certification in diving
  • Take an online course in a subject that interests me
  • Take 2 holidays.... (bold move for me!)
  • Get regular massages
  • Start sewing again - make a dress (or two)
  • Discover at least 1 new wine per month.  Not just new releases, but wines from makes and areas I'm less familiar with
  • Cook more gourmet dinners and invite people over to eat them
  • Blog consistently and figure out what I really want to blog about
  • Run more
  • Ride my bike more
  • Hang out with my friends a LOT more
  • Do something I've never done before
  • ...... to be continued
That's not a bad start right?  I'm sure there is more that I want to add to the list... but this is a good start.

PS - That pic has nothing to do with this blog post... but isn't she cute!!!

Monday, November 14, 2011

Be good to yourself

Be good to yourself.

Don't give yourself a hard time about what you can't control - other peoples circumstances; their feelings, their reactions.

Be selfish on occasion and say no - especially if saying yes would effect your life negatively (overwork, stress, lack of sleep).

Let go of past hurts.  The person who wounded you is not affected by your pain, so it only holds you back.

Take time to breathe and smell the air (except if you're in a polluted city, then find some nice flowers to help with the breathing.)

The world won't stop if you do, so make sure you stop.

Remember what's important.

Remember who you are.

Remember what you value.

Don't compromise unless you both truly gain joy & peace from it.  If you let go of your values and ideals to make someone happy you will ultimately become unhappy.

Remember to breathe.

Remember that friends are to be cherished.  Share you heart and life with them.  Don't take them for granted.

Remember why you do what you do.  If you can't remember stop doing it.

Remember to be good to yourself.  

Friday, November 4, 2011


Sometimes in the busyness of life we lose of what's important to us.  It's easy to get caught up in the things that just have to be done - the work, the chores, the family obligations.  Soon you become all about the task, and lose sight of the things you were building your life around. When it gets like this I've found mementos are important things to surround myself.  Visual reminders of decisions, or values in my life that I strive to keep at the centre of who I am and what I do.  Things that make you pause and question - is what I'm doing right now really that important?  Is it something that is at the core of who I am and who I want to be?

Right now my life is full of busyness and I'm finding myself falling victim to the task at hand and becoming consumed by it.  So today I'm surrounding myself with mementos to remind myself of who I am and what I value.  And more importantly to remind me to stop, and breathe, and be the person I want to be, not the situation I'm in.  Today I'm wearing my favourite memento (see pic).

It's something I bought in New York this year, at Tiffany.  Neither of those two facts are what makes this so special to me though.  What makes this memento special is that it's a scooter.  A Vespa.  It makes me think of Italy.  It reminds me of my travels there and the thing I loved about it the most.  It wasn't the food - although that was incredible.  It wasn't the scenery, or sites - although they were magnificent.  It wasn't the people per se - although they were fabulous.  It was the way they walked through life, embracing the moment they were in.  When they were having coffee at the bar, they were doing just that.  When they were talking with neighbours, it was just that.  There was no checking the watch, looking at email or multi-tasking in other ways.  It was focused attention on the here and now.

So today I'm wearing my memento around my neck reminding me to stop and breathe.  The busyness of life is temporary, and the moments I have now, today are just that - moments which won't be repeated.  I don't want to miss them!