Thursday, September 22, 2011

Day 14 - 21 Day Challenge. Coping mechanisms

Morning all.  Hope you're having a fabulous day, embracing the moment, living the dream.... yadda, yadda, yadda.  As for me I'm moving into stage 3 denial - coping mechanisms.  Today I'm rocking 3 coping mechanisms in tandem - coffee, Girl Talk, and chocolate. I would take a picture - but it isn't pretty!  I'm in full on fall back mode at the moment.  Need to knuckle down and just get things done.  It's all good & fun, but sometimes a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do.


Some people are down on coping mechanisms.  They want you to try and live in a zen state all the time.  You know - mellow and happy - no matter what.  I'm not zen.  Not even my little toe is zen.  I mean I went to yoga this morning and started running through my first meeting in my head half way through the relaxation piece at the end of the class.  Did I achieve relaxation - you bet I did.  Was it the kind of relaxation I was being encouraged to aim for.... not exactly.

My point is I'm all for embracing the moment and living in the here and now.  In fact I believe I even said that last week.  But sometimes you've just got to push through things.  And that's where I'm a firm believer in coping mechanisms.  Now I know they can be bad for you.  I understand that they can lead to dependencies and bad habits, but damn it I'm a nicer person when I eat chocolate.  Known fact.  I can handle stress much better with chocolate and wine.  If you ask me my coping mechanisms aren't the problem - it's the situation that makes the need for them arise that needs to be dealt with.  Sometimes you can change the underlying circumstances.  Sometimes it's just a short season you're in and you just need to manage yourself through it.

So thanks for the zen advice friends and family.  For now I'm sticking with my coffee, chocolate and Girl Talk.

PS - for those of you who want to tell me to just go chill out and admire the view - this is the view from my desk.  Do I still need the coffee? Hell YES - and pass the chocolate while you're at it.